"Always do right, It will surprise some people and astonish the rest!"
                        Mark Twain

"You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist."
                        Golda Meir

"We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit"
                        Aristotle

Psychologist, Executive Coach and Divorce Coach, Shel Miller alleviates the anguish of relationships in crisis. Dr. Shel builds or restores successful working relationships among partners at home or at work. If you are in the Boston area, call him as soon as your

Programs Assuring Joy before the Family Event   Expand the Joy   Overcome the Challenges of Family Issues   Rescue the Joy: Breaking Through Conflicts   Workshop: Assuring Rite of Passage Joy throughout the Family Life Cycle

Programs For Executives   Expanding Success   Rising to the Challenge   Leading: as Family Tradition   See Yourself as Others Do

Expand the Joy: (2 hours, $199)

• Clarify and maintain your dreams.
• Better understand certain family relationships.

Overcome the Challenges of Family Issues: (4 hours, $599)

• Assess if you need a change in course. For example, you are obliged to invite a high-maintenance relative or friend and want a positive result.
• Meet the challenge of the family members who avoid contact.

Rescue the Joy: Breaking Through Conflicts: (8 hours, $999)

• Replace fear with peace, blame with forgiveness, stage fright with confidence.
• Engage in custom designed meetings alone or with key family members re issues.
• Review video recordings of yourself to see yourselves the way others do.
• Feet just cold or frozen for good reasons? For example, should you be a run away bride or groom after all?

Workshop: Assuring Rite of Passage Joy throughout the Family Life Cycle: We have a lot of rituals to help us celebrate the passages in life from womb to tomb. We start life in relationship: mother to child and become a Self, a partner, a parent and empty nester much more quickly it seems as we develop individually. Time waits for no man/woman as family developmental passages, along with child and adult development, flash by over three generations simultaneously. Family rituals that help mark and sanction our joyful tears include the "I do" ceremony, the Bris, Bar/Bat Mitzvah, Confirmation, for some: Divorce rituals, High School or College Graduation ceremonies, the Memorial Service and many others. We shall discuss the ways in which a three-generation family systems perspective gives special meaning to these necessary changes. That frame can provide a spiritual lift as we take action steps to assure harmony in the face of potential conflict or personal and partnership stress in the planning of milestone event celebrations.

Ongoing offerings with Times and Cost custom designed:

Expanding Success: a review session to clarify your best strengths and the actions required to maintain them in business relationships and systems; for example, excellent connections with vendors, a fine reputation in the community, and a desire to satisfy customers. Your goal is for all staff to follow this model.

Rising to the Challenge: a session to assess whether change is needed and what the possibilities may be. For example, you are locked into a commitment to a particular partner or manager that is not working well, perhaps due to family loyalties. You prefer to deal with it and generate hope rather than remain resigned or discouraged.

Leading as Family Tradition: How do you choose wisely from the many leadership experiences and images you have inherited? How do you apply the best business principles and styles from your history? What are your habits of leadership? How well do they work? Feedback will validate your best leadership style.

See Yourself as Others Do (on Video): based on the recording of workplace activity or a key meeting and the feedback from a focused review of the tape. This action allows you to see yourself the way others do. Success is more likely to come to those who dare to know how others experience them - as sincere? competent? trustworthy? intimidating?

An Executive Coach Can Increase Profits

With Systematic Sales, Management or Career Counseling, a Psychologist Can
• Enhance performance and teamwork
• Spark inspirational leadership
• Accelerate Job role transitions of key execs
• Resolve conflicts in family firms