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Shel Miller

I build relationships – relationships that restore joy and meaning.

My clients and I focus on their relationship strengths, on what’s strong rather than what’s wrong.

I am a psychologist coach capable of effective, efficient transforming of conflict whether it emerged from the bedroom or the boardroom.

Thus I offer executive, family, marriage and divorce coaching in order to provide solutions to personal or business conflicts.

Musings: Why I love what I do

By Shel | Published: February 1, 2012

Solving objective math problems back in junior high school was so much fun. It was about the relationships of one set of numbers to others. Now I am enjoying solving subjective, people puzzles or human instead of number relationships.

In…

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Words Matter

By Shel | Published: January 29, 2012

Consider the effect that your words have on others:

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Pulling Together: Geese in V Formation

By Shel | Published: January 24, 2012

 

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AL Pacino gives a speech to his team

By Shel | Published: January 23, 2012

 

In this excerpt from Any Given Sunday, Al Pacino gives a speech

to his team before their last game. What he says also applies to couples and

families who need to pull together as a team to create or…

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“Identifying Your Unique Talents and Values”.

By Shel | Published: December 16, 2011

Today at noon I conduct my first webinar for the Brown Alumni Association’s Executive/Career Coach Webinar series. My title is “Identifying Your Unique Talents and Values”. I look forward to offering this presentation at other venues in the near future.

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Unique Talents, Strengths, and Values

By Shel | Published: August 20, 2011

We talk about unique talents, strengths and values. We rave about following our dreams and passions.

But how many of us really know who we are? How many of us have actually stopped to create a vision, a guiding light…

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TED talk about awesome

By Shel | Published: June 29, 2011

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By Shel | Published: June 11, 2011

Bashbat Advertising Dep.

For your daily dose of amazing, quirky, great, inventive, ingenious and simply awesome advertising.

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  • (editor’s note: I have actually seen these hanging around The Netherlands and they are quite impressive.) “I wish we never had children. What you say during divorce lasts forever.” Advertising Agency: 180 Amsterdam, NetherlandsExecutive Creative Director: Andy FackrellCopywriters: Marianne Riphagen, Jessica HartleyArt Director: Andy FackrellSenior TV Producer: Chayenne de WittePrint Producer / Art buyer: Maren HermansSenior Digital Producer: Anna StolyarovaAccount Manager: Jessica HartleyPlanner: Simon NeateDigital Planner: Mandy GrahamPost Print Producer: Marlon LeeRetoucher: Jan-Willem DijkstraHead of Studio: Mark KennyGraphic Designer: Markus SabatlikProject Manager: Anne-Marie van OverveldDigital Art Directors: Nadege DeCastro, Matthew SteenburgDigital Producer: Colin PueschnerUser Experience Director: Jonathan ConatyDigital Copywriters: Jessica Hartley, Marianne RiphagenDigital Copywriter: Sophie TopBusiness Affairs Directors: Chris Barrand, Emilie Douque, Justine Young

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    A Bowen family systems coach in Collaborative Divorce Practice

    By Shel | Published: March 22, 2011

     

    This article highlights the approach of Woody Mosten in Collaborative Law interdisciplinary Training re emotional outbursts. He demonstrates client self-soothing. And he reframes the highly laden emotional issue into an agenda item thereby pointing to next possible steps. The…

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    How to Be Alone

    By Shel | Published: August 17, 2010

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    Divorce Happens Video

    By Shel | Published: June 16, 2010

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    The Human Costs and Benefit of Separation

    By Shel | Published: April 14, 2010

    Let’s start with the known costs of failure born of the macho mindset. Then we will seek the main benefit of suddenly having to face family law issues. In the 1993 book, Man Enough, Frank Pittman explained the costs…

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    Avoid the Holiday Blues

    By Shel | Published: December 27, 2009

    I hope you are all taking the opportunity to enjoy your family and social connections now that you are half way through the year end holidays. This is a fine time to show your family how much you appreciate them…

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    Staying Committed: Part 2

    By Shel | Published: May 29, 2008
    Key words: leadership communication negotiation parenting commitment coach success work love balance NO
    Summary: Success at both work and love enhance each other. The necessary negotiation and communication skills lead to success in both the bedroom and the boardroom.

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    Staying Committed: Part 1

    By Shel | Published: May 29, 2008
    To develop these positive moods, one of the highest priorities is creating clear boundary marking. Eliminate chronic struggles over rule making, limit setting and the division of labor. The servant leader needs to be a giver but he/she also

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    Executive Coaching Agreement

    By Shel | Published: August 28, 2007

    Now you can download this consent form right from my website and read it at your leisure. Please sign and bring to next meeting.

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    Professional-Client Agreement

    By Shel | Published: March 1, 2007

    Now you can download this consent form right from my website and read it at your leisure. Please sign and bring to next meeting.

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    Consent Form For Audio and Video

    By Shel | Published: October 20, 2006

    Now you can download this consent form right from my website and read it at your leisure. Please sign and bring to next meeting.

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    Relationship Coaching

    By Shel | Published: November 28, 2005
    Perhaps the most famous face to face coach, (some would say “in your face”), confronting high conflict couples and families is Dr. Phil. Many arrive to the first few coaching sessions with a report of a breakdown in ability to communicate, and

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    Changing the Culture of Divorce: A Review

    By Shel | Published: November 24, 2005
    Following Jung, who said “There is not birth of consciousness without pain, she reminded us that suffering, loss, and death can lead to rebirth? At one of the later convention workshops on Advocacy versus Empathy, reference was made to “the initial

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    Trying One’s Patients

    By Shel | Published: November 17, 2005

    Insight Into a Hospital Stay

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    The 4 F Model of Divorce

    By Shel | Published: November 14, 2005

    Here is a useful model for the divorce coach team member who is facilitating a 5-way meeting in the collaborative law approach to divorce.  This model dovetails with a set of expectations of ideal conduct appropriate for both attorneys as…

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    The Holidays

    By Shel | Published: November 5, 2005

    My coaching clients come in or should come in to develop more confidence when facing life’s milestone events. They come at those moments of pain, perhaps when planning a a family holiday reunion, a wedding, a graduation, confirmation, anniversary, or…

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    Divorce Coaching

    By Shel | Published: February 14, 2005

    MY MISSION:
    To lift spirits by restoring hope and peace in families struggling with conflict.

    This brochure defines the nature and benefits of Divorce Coaching.

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    • Shel J. Miller, Ph.D.

      About Shel
      I build relationships - relationships that restore joy and meaning. My clients and I focus on their relationship strengths, on what's strong rather than what's wrong. I am a psychologist coach capable of effective, efficient transforming of conflict whether it emerged from the bedroom or the boardroom. Thus I offer executive, family, marriage and divorce coaching in order to provide solutions to personal or business conflicts.

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      • Executive Coaching
      • Marriage & Family Counseling
      • Psychological Consultation
      • Parenting Coordination
      • Divorce Coaching
      • Collaborative Law Coaching

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      • Phone: (617) 731-9174
      • Email: ShelMiller (at) rcn (dot) com