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Shel Miller

I build relationships – relationships that restore joy and meaning.

My clients and I focus on their relationship strengths, on what’s strong rather than what’s wrong.

I am a psychologist coach capable of effective, efficient transforming of conflict whether it emerged from the bedroom or the boardroom.

Thus I offer executive, family, marriage and divorce coaching in order to provide solutions to personal or business conflicts.

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The Human Costs and Benefit of Separation

Let’s start with the known costs of failure born of the macho mindset. Then we will seek the main benefit of suddenly having to face family law issues. In the 1993 book, Man Enough, Frank Pittman explained the costs of…

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Avoid the Holiday Blues

I hope you are all taking the opportunity to enjoy your family and social connections now that you are half way through the year end holidays. This is a fine time to show your family how much you appreciate them…

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Staying Committed: Part 2

Key words: leadership communication negotiation parenting commitment coach success work love balance NO
Summary: Success at both work and love enhance each other. The necessary negotiation and communication skills lead to success in both the bedroom and the boardroom. One of the…
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Staying Committed: Part 1

To develop these positive moods, one of the highest priorities is creating clear boundary marking. Eliminate chronic struggles over rule making, limit setting and the division of labor. The servant leader needs to be a giver but he/she also really…
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Executive Coaching Agreement

Now you can download this consent form right from my website and read it at your leisure. Please sign and bring to next meeting.

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Professional-Client Agreement

Now you can download this consent form right from my website and read it at your leisure. Please sign and bring to next meeting.

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Consent Form For Audio and Video

Now you can download this consent form right from my website and read it at your leisure. Please sign and bring to next meeting.

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Relationship Coaching

Perhaps the most famous face to face coach, (some would say “in your face”), confronting high conflict couples and families is Dr. Phil. Many arrive to the first few coaching sessions with a report of a breakdown in ability to communicate, and a…
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Changing the Culture of Divorce: A Review

Following Jung, who said “There is not birth of consciousness without pain, she reminded us that suffering, loss, and death can lead to rebirth? At one of the later convention workshops on Advocacy versus Empathy, reference was made to “the initial trauma…
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Trying One’s Patients

Insight Into a Hospital Stay

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The 4 F Model of Divorce

Here is a useful model for the divorce coach team member who is facilitating a 5-way meeting in the collaborative law approach to divorce.  This model dovetails with a set of expectations of ideal conduct appropriate for both attorneys as…

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The Holidays

My coaching clients come in or should come in to develop more confidence when facing life’s milestone events. They come at those moments of pain, perhaps when planning a a family holiday reunion, a wedding, a graduation, confirmation, anniversary, or…

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Divorce Coaching

MY MISSION:
To lift spirits by restoring hope and peace in families struggling with conflict.

This brochure defines the nature and benefits of Divorce Coaching.

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  • “"We are more than individually vunlernable --We are intervulnerable. We are vulnerable to one another."”

    Miriam Greenspan


     Healing through the Dark Emotions
  • “Don't be afraid to give up the good for the great.”

    Kenny Rogers


  • “Vitality shows in not only the ability to persist but the ability to start over.”

    F. Scott Fitzgerald


  • Shel J. Miller, Ph.D.

    About Shel
    I build relationships - relationships that restore joy and meaning. My clients and I focus on their relationship strengths, on what's strong rather than what's wrong. I am a psychologist coach capable of effective, efficient transforming of conflict whether it emerged from the bedroom or the boardroom. Thus I offer executive, family, marriage and divorce coaching in order to provide solutions to personal or business conflicts.