Staying Committed: Part 1

By Shel | Published: May 29, 2008
To develop these positive moods, one of the highest priorities is creating clear boundary marking. Eliminate chronic struggles over rule making, limit setting and the division of labor. The servant leader needs to be a giver but he/she also really needs another basic skill: the technique of the gracious ―no.‖ Saying ―No‖ is one very important relationship coordinating language skill. It is just as important to serving the other’s needs as when promising ―Yes.‖ An executive, especially, must show solid executive functioning in her use of language.

To develop these positive moods, one of the highest priorities is creating clear boundary marking. Eliminate chronic struggles over rule making, limit setting and the division of labor. The servant leader needs to be a giver but he/she also really needs another basic skill: the technique of the gracious ―no.‖ Saying ―No‖ is one very important relationship coordinating language skill. It is just as important to serving the other’s needs as when promising ―Yes.‖ An executive, especially, must show solid executive functioning in her use of language.

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